A Few Tips To Understand A Woman’s Sex Drive

It is a common misconception that women have lower sex drives then men.  Because of social stigmas early on in a woman’s life (i.e. slut, etc) she learns to keep her sex drive under wraps.  It’s not generally until late thirties even early forties that she lets those ideas go and understands that she owns her body.

 

The goal of getting a woman aroused is essentially “preheating” her.  That’s right-like an oven.  She is generally slow to turn on and slow to cool down.  On average it takes a woman twenty minutes to reach an orgasm.  This is about fifteen minutes of preheating.

 

So some of you may be thinking what the hell is preheating?  In this sense it is not only physical foreplay but also emotional foreplay.  It just so happens that at this point in evolution women are still emotionally centered.  Women use sex as a way to emotionally connect.  When this is understood by a woman’s partner, good sex will be inevitable.

 

How To Get Her To Do What You Want (in the bedroom)

 

1. Make her feel safe- safety and security and sex go hand and hand.  She has to know that you will not look down on her or judge her.  She also has to feel like you are able to handle whatever she gives to you (and the intensity).
2. Support her- Support her efforts to be as frisky/dirty as she wants.
3. Encourage her- Encourage her to express her wild side and be sure to give positive reinforcement during and after!

 

Because women are emotional these tips work well to ease her into her into the power of her own sex drive.  With all of this being said, I’m also a big fan of sexting (to get your partner in the mood).

 

If you have not tries this, you may want to- send a sexy text mid day to your woman but keep it on the emotional lines.  Here’s an example: “I can’t wait for you to get home, I miss you and can’t wait to get close to you” or “You make me so happy- I want you more and more when I think about us.”

Good Luck!

Ciao,

DD